So your girl Sass has been doing a lot of thinking (and talking) about the opposite sex, the dating scene, and just males and females and how they relate to eachother in general. And with a push from my girl CJ, I will embark on a 90 day journey inside the world of online dating. lol Just as an experiment, and we'll see what comes of it. I signed up at www.plentyoffish.com this past Saturday, and already I'm learning more about MYSELF. What I like, what I don't like, what I want, what I don't want, and I've also realized I'm shy. Sassy and shy, go figure!
If you know me, you know that this is soo not me but I'm looking to push myself this year in many different ways, this is just one. It's time for me to get out of this shell and be way more fearless. What do I have to lose? And I'm fly! Any man or person in general is/would be lucky to be around me, and I'm looking for those I feel the same way about. Wish me luck!
Im back!! and got some news | 2 comments»
just me | 3 comments»
sometimes i speak to myself. there's a system of checks and balances i impose upon myself to be sure i am moving, thinking and speaking in a sane manner. sound a lil crazy? sorry about that (not really). sometimes when i cant speak to me, i write to me. lol and im not even a gemini, but they are 2 distinct people, and when a situation is complex, more i's and me's come into play.
so while being snappy, and neglectful, and wallowing in a bit of sorrow and sadness i had to check myself
The truth is nobody thinks anybody else gets them
what does that tell you?
everybody's going thru shit
you're not as special or individualized as you would have yourself believe. people have it better, people have it the same, people have it way worse.
get over yourself.
people get so hung up on their own lives
they cant see past it
the rest of the world continues to turn every day
you can join grow and learn, or stay trapped in yourself
the choice is yours and mine
im not exempt. just learning.
sassythings will not launch officially until 09, but there were some things i wanted to share. check it out!
Girl's night out | 4 comments»
i'm on the phone prepping for my mini evening out (i was only going to the event from 7:30 - 9:30). Telling Lola if I was going to find a man to entertain me I was gonna have to step out cause that fool is not gonna just ring my doorbell. So i beat the face, push the girls up, throw on some boots, and pack the kid for auntie's.
Get to harlem, not a damn parking space in sight. t.elle on bbm like i'm excited, get here. Walk 2 1/2 blocks in the blistering cold on a dirty ass harlem street, wind blowing all kinds of crack debris on my freshly beaten face. Get in the spot...the vibe squeezes me. hmm something aint right lol. hmm only 1 penis in the whole place, then he leaves. ok.
make eye contact with t.elle. She's happy to see me. Grab a seat outside of the crowd cause it looks intimate and I'm anti-social like that, I'm here to see her (t.elle that is). Crazy old lady is making crazy eye contact (which she does again later while dancing to her requested song, Tpain's Chopped and Screwed), I think she's going to say something so I give her my attention, she just continues to look at me and thats when it hits me!! ohhhhh it is truly LADIES night. ok. Shoulda sat at home and waited for my doorbell to ring. *le sigh*
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One of my biggest philosophies in life is lead by example. And That One is one hell of an example. Barack is human, this country is in disarray; change will not happen or come over night, but it is a huge relief and then some to have a genuine person with some damn common sense leading our country. This campaign transcended our borders literally and figuratively, and I'm so excited and grateful for this nation, our world, my people, and most importantly (to me) my son to be able to follow this example. Possibilities are infinite.
P.S. We need to keep this man in our prayers.
There's a boy. | 2 comments»
Very aloof. What other way is there to be? Never to pressed or impressed, but appreciative of beauty or his idea of it. He acts interested but just doesn't have the mental energy or stimuli to go through with pursuit.
There's a girl, real chill until the prospect of love arises. What other way is there to be? Very picky about who gets her time, her mind, and her behind (so to speak). But when she finds one, she wants it to work. Badly.
Boy sees Girl day 1: Boy offers brief pleasantries to Girl (she reciprocates) but is content to let her walk away. Boy sees Girl day 2: Boy offers brief pleasantries once again. Girl's interest is piqued because she has noticed Boy before and it seems she is now getting her time in the spotlight. That suits her well. Boy is still content to let Girl walk away but Girl figures this is what it will just be. Nothing wrong with being pleasant. Boy sees Girl day 3: boy offers brief pleasantries. Boy sees Girl day 3 part 2: Boy introduces himself and exchanges more than pleasantries but contact info with Girl. Jackpot! Girl thinks. Girl is wrong.
sass did some dumb shit... | 3 comments»
and it's come back to bite her in the ass. I deserve it, but I'm still sad about it. And part of me didn't see what other options I had. How long am I supposed to wait anyway?!?! I know y'all don't know what I'm talking about, and trust, that's whats best. It's all good anyway. Just another day in the life...
what the stars say... | 1 comments»
so i haven't heard from him in a few days but i didn't mind that too much because mercury is in retrograde til the 15th [click and read up on it]. But i call this morning/get his voicemail, just to check and see if he's breathing. then suezette sends me my love scope...
Watch your spending this weekend as you can overrate the value of a glittery object or fascinating experience. The same thing goes for people as you may be willing to give a whole lot more than you get. Love should come to you as an equal partner, not as the person who has to make all the sacrifices.
that shit made me sad. i stopped trying to control how i felt a long time ago because it only frustrates me more. trying to fight against a natural current is useless and futile. but what I decided to do was remain aware and smart, and know that with love comes hurt, and there will come a point when you don't want to be hurt anymore regardless of how much you love. I'm waiting for that time. maybe i need a different approach...who knows
my horoscope also says this...
[y]ou can usually gracefully sidestep complex issues when they push your feelings into emotionally intense places, yet today you may be more eager to experience the edge. Acknowledging your own rebellious streak can go a long way toward feeling comfortable as you push the envelope. Remember, it's not about being safe now; it's about taking a risk in order to have a memorable experience.
know this about my sassy ass..i am a cancer. I'm very happy here in my shell sheltered from the worlds foolishness...i don't want to experience no damn edge, and i don't do well when my feelings are pushed into emotionally intense places, but i could use a memorable experience lol
See Brit, kids do still ride their bikes...tricycles :) | 6 comments»
ignore the dates..these were taken this summer
and simply because i adore my 3 year old...
sass is talking ish on the bg guide...check me out!
so....the universe has been after my phone | 4 comments»
for a few weeks now. I've had many close encounters with leaving my phone some place, or thinking I left it some place but it was in my bag all along, and leaving at a friends desk at work and going home for the day. Needless to say I knew the phone was on its way out some way or another (you would think i would back the info up some place or write the numbers down. But i guess that made too much sense). Just didn't expect the universe to snatch it the way it did. As i took a light jog for the train, the train I hate to take, the 1 train. The damn thing slid out of my pocket and right between the train and the platform, onto the tracks. My heart damn near jumped out after it simply because I couldn't believe it. I thought I was having a heart attack, a conniption or something. My body was frizzing out. I didn't realize that phone was everything to me. If I'm not at work, its the only way to reach me. I only know about 4 people's numbers by heart, all of them, for some reason or another right now are useless to me. Lola is 7 months pregnant and in Jersey, Tola is in Florida right now, Babydaddy (i wasn't even sure i knew his number by heart) is well...babydaddy, and the other one is not even worth mentioning. I don't even know my mother's numbers by heart! Devestated. Devastated is what I am.
...Going on in my brain | 6 comments»
So I think I'm cool with being single. A while ago I thought of what I would consider my perfect day, and when my little daydream ended I realized there was no man in my life. So then I tried to go back and see where one might fit , and there wasn't any space. This couldn't possibly be true could it? But I realized what I really want most is a very large comfortable bed in a very cozy comfortable home, with a smart polite and well adjusted child, a fulfilling job and time for myself.
Knowing me though, I know I need the D more than every now and then and I think it would be nice to have companionship on the days I don't want to be alone: a dinner date here and there, good phone convo, gifts (all girls want gifts from guys and the only ones that say gifts don't matter are the ones that get them all the time and the ones that don't at all). And as much as I want loyalty and a man that doesn't feel the need to stick his penis in every and any orifice he can find, I want a man who has his own shit to do. And while he adores me, he's not hung up on me but is also not elusive and evasive. Why must I be so complicated? I'll probably contradict all of this in an upcoming post.
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Cut through the bushes | 0 comments»
Katherine McPhee Everywhere I Go
I cant go down this road again. It's winding, one side with a sign that says Dead End, the other a cul-de-sac. I'll have to cut thru the rose bushes and know the thorns can only do but so much damage and I will heal. I always do. Don't know why I think I won't. All champions have lost at some point. It's what makes the victory sweet. I'm a sore loser but I'll get over it.
So yeah...that's what I'l do.
Sass is over at the BG Guide again...check me out here!
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